Partnership….the most profound synergy to create magic



I am a movie buff. I will enjoy the Cinematic experience till end of my life on this earth. Of course I chose the movie I see and I am able to spot the good ones thru combination of reviews and my gut feels. 

My wife is just opposite. She does not like movies and hates to be in the lounges of Cinema theaters. Gradually she is getting converted. She partners with me and gradually loves what I love. Same is with me. I hate too much time in shopping and window shopping which she likes most. But gradually I am a convert. Still I hate the expense, though I love her happiness….and expense does not matter any more….within my means of course.

Currently, she enquires whether I have any movie on my mind and I enquire any shopping she is contemplating.

We had an arranged marraige and we had our share of misunderstandings from the beginning. We are contrasts and we have learnt to cope with that. The zing is in the contrast. Though we argue and have our strong mindsets, we strangely support each others’ likes and understand the dislikes. We agree to disagree.

Our partnership has withered many a storms in our lives…some contributed by me, some by her and some by my son….but largely by twists and turns of events dragging us into dispair many a times. 

What finally could sail us thru was our synergy, partnership, fighting together and ofcouese His, the Lord Almighty’s helping hand.

The journey is on..still on…our tests are still on.

I am not speaking anything new. I believe every couple will vouch for similar experience. We are no different.

But this is not experinced by individualistic, egocentric arrogants who can never partner with any one. 

This simple truth was so beautifully described in the Movie Shamitabh. Two talented individuals were handicapped otherwise with contrasting weaknesses. When they come together, the magic happens…world comes to their feet. The success breeds the jealousy between them and they separate. They pursue individual endevours and flop.

By the time they realise their mistake the world has fallen apart for them, and one partner is lost for ever leaving the other with eternal guilt.

I simply loved the movie and enjoyed its music as well…the Piddly number sung by Amitabh Bachhan.

But, most importantly it reminded my partnership journey and I am ever grateful to her for what she has done for me and us in the family.

Wihing you all lovely partnership experiences.

Judge-mentality to Sensibility…..Have you scrutinised your journey?i

Dear Folks! I would sincerely like to draw your attention to this topic of judging people or situation on drop of a hat. We find that , continiously, we are engaged in evaluaions. We are evaluating situations, persons, actions, contexts and what not. It seems that our mind is working overtime in being judgemental. When we encounter a negative situation, we quickly jump to a conclusion about what led to that situation or whois to be blamed. Why do we do so? I think it is years of die hard habit…a habit born out of our need to analyse a negative outcome and need to take protective measures. We, more often than not, conclude that the blame lies outside us. It is somebody else, not me. Hence, correction lies outside me, and protection lies in my actions. We, consequently take wrong actions like ostracising, disassociating, hating, blaming, taking revenge, getting angry or simply ignoring….but not understanding, not loving. Our ego and selfishness forces us into this kind of habit. We are kind of blind. We are blinded by our prejudice, our superficiality, our selfish-love. We are clouded by our intolerance, our strong likes and dislikes created out of influnence, poor undestanding and seer lack of sensibilities.b The need is to take a step back. Critically look at the situation like an analyst. Step oyutside the system as if you are not part of it. Look for facts and figures. Observe intently. Many a time unspoken, non-verbal communications are very strong communications. Put yourself in the shoes of the person you are evaluating. Feel from others’ perspective. Develop that sensisibility which questions your prejudice , your orientation, your fears, your propensities and then looks for missing angle. Develop empathy and nothing sort of that. Suddenly, you will find that you live in a different world, a world of Love and Beauty. You will understand that living has another meaning. The meaning will outgrow the self-related orientation and evolve into inclusive orientation. You will find that the external entities are nothing but you in different situations and different understandings. You will enjoy your understanding of them and your actions will emanate from your deep empathetic analysis rather than impulsive fragile emotions born out of prejudice and self-centered inclinations. By judging others we lower our nature and by loving we elevate it. I dont mean blind love when I utter Love. The Love is in accepting the divine manifestations and merging into it. Make your Love so powerful that you can never err in understanding…it becomes intuitive, almost instantaneous without any need for any elaborate analysis. Something like a supercomputer. The potetial, the knowledege is already embedded in you. The need is to discover again or uncover it from closed judgementality. It needs intense practice to break free from old habit and a tranquil mind developed through meditative approach to life. These are not repititions from some scripture study. I am not a saint. I have gone through my trials and tribulations. But, whatever little nectar I gathered in this life-expereince, I am sharing. Accept it if you find meaning in it or else discard it out-right. But trying is never harmful. Wishing you a beautiful journey from crass Judge-mentality to refined sensibility.